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Where Amos is doing some good/ Dog for Amos

In Uncategorized on 12/07/2015 at 5:23 am

His antics are drawing attention to a growing problem: excessive attention-seeking behaviour in children.

Child counsellors have said they are seeing more cases of youths who display excessive attention-seeking behaviour … such attention-seeking behaviour will remain a problem among today’s youths, who are just a click away from expressing their views online. While it is normal for most people to seek attention from family members or friends, it becomes a bigger concern when this behaviour gets excessive, and the cause for this usually stems from family neglect. 

(CNA as are the extracts below in italics)

What is excessive attention-seeking behaviour? It’s not mental, it’s developmental

President of the Academy of Certified Counsellors, Dr John Lim, said: “Attention-seeking behaviour is not a character flaw. It is a brain wiring response to a developmental trauma caused by neglect. (Emphasis mine)

“When a youth seeks attention, what he is asking for is not to be neglected and that his views be heard. It only becomes an issue when one goes through excessive lengths and means to get attention, and this can cause the person not to be functional in many areas in life.”

How to spot it 

Hence, it is critical for parents to make time for their children and pay attention to symptoms. Dr Raymond Cheong from the Youth Learning & Counselling Clinic gave an example: “If your child is a little boy or girl, they cry all the time to get what they want and the parent gives in, that is the beginning of a wilful behaviour.”

Another example he listed was when the child is over-enthusiastic in wanting to help in something or to gain the parent’s attention.

What to do about it: Amos needs a pet dog

Parents who identify such symptoms are encouraged to send their children for counselling and to teach them self-awareness, social awareness and relationship management, and help them make responsible decisions.

Sounds like self-serving advice from the practitioners.

Coming back to Amos, I always had tot that Amos needed a dog to keep him grounded in reality. I’m an only child too, and I’ve always had a dog. A dog gives the owner all the attention (and more) he needs, even when he doesn’t care for it, especially if the dog comes into the home when very, very young. One of my dogs is like that.

Whatever, three cheers for Amos because the “fantastic” is drawing public attention to excessive attention-seeking behaviour in children. Maybe when he’s better, he should be encourage to make a movie on this topic.

Fat chance of this with fans like CAN who include rabid anti-PAP activists like Martyn See, Lynn Lee (btw, both are film makers)and anti-PAP cyber warriots like Kirsten Han.

Update at 5.30pm: If he’s been traumatised as CAN is saying, and since he loves the internet, he could try playing Tetris for 12 minutes the day. Doing so after at traumatic event can reduce flashbacks.

Find out more (Smithsonian magazine)

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